My dad, my lover-

My dad, my lover

by farik zolkepli AND jastin ahmad tarmizi

PETALING JAYA: A 46-year-old man has been having sex with his daughter the past three years in their home in Kajang whenever his wife is not around.

The incestuous affair would probably have continued if not for an alert uncle who runs the hair salon where the 21-year-old woman has been working since completing the SPM.

A police source said the relative had borrowed the woman’s mobile phone on Nov 9 to make a call when he saw “steamy” text messages from the father to his daughter.

“The uncle’s phone had run out of battery and he borrowed the woman’s phone to make a call.

“He was shocked to see such messages from the girl’s father and immediately questioned her.

“After continued pressure, she confessed she had been having sex with her father since she was 18. She also revealed she was a willing partner and was in love with him,” the source said.

The uncle brought the woman back to her home and confronted the father in the presence of her mother.

The man only sat in silence while his wife was deeply distraught over the revelation.

“The woman revealed the last time she had sex with her father was in October.

“She also said her father, who runs a food stall in Kajang, gave her money each time after sex,” the police source said.

The source added that at first, the woman was reluctant to lodge a police report.

The uncle, however, brought her to the Kajang police station as he was worried the same fate would befall the woman’s nine-year-old sister.

The man has been remanded until Nov 26 to facilitate investigations under Section 376A of the Penal Code for incest.

The 46-year-old man being led away by police officers in Kajang.

The offence carries a jail sentence of between six and 20 years, and whipping upon conviction.

The woman has been sent to the Kajang Hospital for a medical check-up.

Legal sources said that if the father is charged with the offence, she could also be liable under Section 376A.

“Under the law, if both committed the offence, both can be charged but it all depends on the circumstances of the case.

“It will be up to the Attorney-General’s Chambers to decide whether the woman was a victim or if she should be charged with the offence as well,” the source added.

Under Section 376A, a person is said to have committed incest if he has sexual intercourse with another person whose relationship to him is such that he is not permitted to marry her under the law, religion or custom.

Source :  http://www.thestar.com.my/News/Nation/2013/11/21/Steamy-messages-gave-them-away-Salon-operator-uncovers-hairraising-affair-between-father-and-daughte.aspx

And A view on the Story :

What’s wrong with incest anyway?
By Zan Azlee

 Zan Azlee is a documentary filmmaker, journalist, writer, New Media practitioner and lecturer. He runs Fat Bidin Media www.fatbidin.com

Sex between two consenting adults should not be made a fuss about. A male who is willing and a female who is willing – once they get together, they should be allowed to consummate.

It doesn’t really matter if it is between a father and a daughter. Both are old enough to evaluate the situation,  and if they feel it is okay, then why not ?

Yes, you guessed it! I’m referring to that case hot in the media where a father and daughter who have been enjoying a sexual relationship were caught by an uncle.

The father is 46 years old and at that age, if he still doesn’t have more than enough salt in his system than rice, then I don’t know what to say.

The daughter on the other hand, already 18 years old when she started the 3-year relationship with her father, is legally an adult. Minors are those who are under 16 years.

How can you ever doubt the emotions of love expressed by an 18-year-old girl? Love is a feeling so pure, it should not be curbed and suppressed.

As for the uncle who ousted their relationship, come on! Isn’t there anything better he can to do with his time other than snooping around people’s mobile phone?

And, as for the mother, according to news reports, she is said to have been distraught when the uncle confronted her daughter and her husband in front of her.

Why does she need to feel distraught? Face the facts lady! There must have been a reason why your husband decided to have sex with your daughter.

Maybe she didn’t pay enough attention to her husband? Maybe she didn’t know how to rub his feet after a tired day at work, or she just didn’t know how to rub him anywhere else at all!

If we look at the letter of the law, statutory rape is when you have sex, whether consensual or not, with someone who is underage.

And if we’re still looking at the law, incest is not even stated anywhere. Incestuous rape is punishable by law but remember – she is of age and consenting, hence it is not rape.

Anyway, who cares about the law? If pedophiles can declare that their “condition” should be recognized as a sexual orientation, then what is wrong with incest, right?

It’s like people who smoke cigarettes or do drugs. They are only causing harm to themselves and not affecting others. So let them be.

Why criticize something that doesn’t cause harm and violence on others? The best thing to do here is to live and let live. I’m sure their relationship will prevail through this challenge.

And in conclusion, I’d like to quote my favourite Shania Twain song:

“Ain't nothin' better

We beat the odds together

I'm glad we didn't listen

Look at what we would be missin'

They said, ‘I bet they'll never make it’

But just look at us holding on

We're still together still going strong.”

I have a daughter of my own so this is obviously a sarcastic reaction on my point. My hope is that no one becomes desensitised to issues like these. – November 22, 2013.

Source :

 http://fatbidin.com/

http://www.themalaysianinsider.com/opinion/zan-azlee/article/whats-wrong-with-incest-anyway